Model Mother, Trophy Wife

MODEL MOTHER, TROPHY WIFE
 

Some females are terrible mothers! Queen ants and termites constantly lay eggs, but have nothing to do with their care afterward. As a matter of fact, when their eggs hatch, their young end up TAKING CARE OF THEM! Ostrich moms also lay eggs, and do nothing for their young afterwards, either! But at least these creatures don't do what many human mothers do - ABORT their babies, and call it a right and a choice as though no sin were involved!

Many Christians know that one place to find the description of a model mother is in the book of Proverbs - "Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar. She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates." (Prov. 31:10 - 31) But can we find other places in the Bible describing a mother everyone wants? And let us remember a model mother is also a "trophy wife" for the husband, and we should look at why these aspects go hand-in-hand.

"A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones." (Prov. 12:4). While a virtuous woman makes her husband pleased, so are her children, and for the sme reason - This aspect of her reputation will preceed her. A shameful woman is just the opposite. Who of her family will even smile at her mention?

"House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the LORD." (Prov. 19:14) Good parents indeed will their possessions to their children, but nowadays, not all parents have much to bestow on their heirs; enter the prudent wife! Well, maybe we should define "prudent". "Exercising sound judgment in practical matters"; cautious in conduct"; "managing carefully". So a prudent mother and wife is one who acts in wisdom, including having long range planning to will some things of value to their children. After all, what will they be buried with, if their children are not willed enough money to cover funeral costs? A prudent mother and wife thinks on this and more!

"Not slothful in business; fervent in spirit; serving the Lord;" (Rom. 12:11). A good mother and wife is tenacious in conducting whatever family business need be attended to. A good mother persistently applies good sense and values to all her daily business issues, whether spanking her child for bad behavior, or breaking relations with someone she detects will make serious problems for her and her family. A good wife and mother prioritizes what needs to be done on a daily basis to keep the house running smoothly.

"I rejoiced greatly that I found of thy children walking in truth, as we have received a commandment from the Father." (2 John 1:4) "Specially the day that thou stoodest before the LORD thy God in Horeb, when the LORD said unto me, 'Gather Me the people together, and I will make them hear My words, that they may learn to fear Me all the days that they shall live upon the earth, and that they may teach their children.'" (Deut. 4:10) A good mother teaches the Bible to her children, and works to instill godly virtues in them, and fear of the Lord. If the land you live in has high crime, and corruption and perversion is rampant in your government, the mothers of them who love their crimes, corruption, and perversion likely failed to heed these Bible verses.

"Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement." (1 Pet. 3:1-6). It happens as often as God permits, that women may become born again/saved before their husbands. While this becomes a case of unequal yoking, yet the woman is to stick out their marriage and continue living as godly as possible. While she is to be in subjection to her husband, yet she must be in subjection to God FIRST! In all her husband demands of her, so long as it is in God's guidelines, these things she must submit to doing. But if he, for example, demands she be a harlot to bring money into the house, she is in no way required to obey, because God's command trumps the command of her husband! "Thou shalt not commit adultery." (Exod. 20:14). Her persistent godly behavior should be as a light to win him to Christ, while simultaneously being an example to her children. To daughters, how to remain godly with an ungodly husband; to sons, what to look for in a godly wife.

"Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law. And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church." (1 Cor. 14:34 - 35). No woman can obey this rule written by Paul to the Corinthians and be a pastor. Women may teach children Bible study outside of the worship service, or at home, this is condoned. But if they have questions concerning scripture, or want to discuss scripture, Paul writes they need to speak of it at home, and he even says it is shameful for them to speak during the worship service! A mother and/or wife who demonstrates discipline in church is again a model for her children and the pleasure of her husband.

So herein we have lots of biblical reference of what constitutes a model mother and a wife to treasure. Happy is the mother and wife found to be this way!